In every family parents need to show kids discipline. Why its obvious? If you don't you'll be stuck with spoiled little kids who expect to get everything.
Now, We've all heard the line coming from kids talking to their friends "My parents are way too Strict!!!"
Is there such thing as being too strict? Yes there is.
There is disadvantages, tons of them of being WAY Overboard strict.
First of all, you'll lose their trust, kids who aren't allowed anything will tend to learn to "hide" things, since if they tell their parents, well they'll be dead, some people like to refer to this action as "Rebeling" Whether its going against your parents wishes by creating that facebook account or watching that movie your not supposed to.
If you keep your child concealed in a shell from the rest of the world-I'm not saying let them go to China whenever they want, but if you never ever let your kid go to a friend's house, a dance, a birthday party-as soon as they get out of the house and are sent to college-they will go crazy.
Fear, if you jump at every mistake your child makes, they will be afraid to make mistakes, and they might even become afraid of their parents, as I said and try to hide things, if you yell at your child for not getting that A on the test-it can cause stress, which is something I've seen among children, and stress can actually REDUCE marks-and as I said Maybe the kid will 'rebel' and get low marks on purpose.
You want your child to feel accepted and wanted for who they are, and as long as they try their best it should be enough-a quote my mother always told me was that the safest place you should be is with your family.
Many people dish out about their strict upbringing and how it had affected them.
One girl said since her parents never let her 'date' or talk to the oppisite gender, she jumped at the first boy who gave her attention when she left the house-you can imagine how that turned out.
Another girl says that it made her shy and timid and afraid to be 'not perfect' she says it alway made her a target for bullies.
Another user from the same forum had said that the biggest 'troublemakers' where the ones with the really strict parents who wouldn't let them do anything.
The same user continues:
"And it is through this that good parenting does not come from being an overbearing and strict idiot who intends to shelter their child from life, but rather someone who is willing to INFORM them on what is out there so they can make good decisions...and even then, good decision is in the eye of the beholder, for the most part at least."
Its important to set borders of course, but setting borders is different than locking your child in a cage.
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